Thursdays are basically going to be my rant day. Taking something,and giving my full, no holds barred opinion. Today, it's the movie "Dear John".
I went and saw this movie with my sorority sisters this past weekend. I knew it dealt with deployment, so I tried to prepare myself as much as I could, for how emotional it would make me.
There's a part where he gets wounded. LOST. MY. SHIT. I really wish I would've made C go with me/waited till he could be here. As it is, my sisters all wanted to comfort me, but didn't really know how.The girl in this movie, however, was another story.
I HATED HER. She was cute for the first half, but then doesn't write for 2 months and she's suddenly ENGAGED??! WHAT A WHORE. She says later that she "didn't have a choice", "it was so hard living without you". You know what pumpkin? Life is hard. Being a military spouse IS hard, but it's worth it! She CHOSE to break John's heart, she didn't deserve crap. Real love survives any amount of distance or time.
I don't think she really loved him. I don't think that she was cute, nor was her little letter justified. I can't IMAGINE leaving someone in the middle of their deployment, especially if it was someone I really loved.Regardless of the circumstances, she could support her friend with cancer(financially, taking care of his kid) without MARRYING him.
I try not to judge other people(even fictional ones), but it's hard. I don't hold people to any higher standards than I do for myself, but I also have very high standards.
I think it bothers me so much because C and I have been long distance for the past 2 years. That's longer than most deployments. Does it suck? Absolutely. Would I love for us to be together right now? Of course. Never ONCE have I thought about leaving him. I do have a choice-I choose him. It is hard living without him--but I choose to wait because I know when we are together, it's amazing and so worth it.And if their time together was as amazing as Nicholas Sparks wants me to believe it is, why didn't she stay? I just don't understand.